One of the fears that I have been trying to face is the fear of the places and faces from my past. Lori recommended that I set up a hierarchy to start facing those fears.
Basically, I need to ease myself into the things that I am afraid of, for several reasons. It will help to slowly reassure myself that I am safe. It will help disperse the high levels of fear that I still carry. It will help me be able to return to places that I have been avoiding. It will let me eventually get to the point where I am not afraid.
But I have to actually start facing those people and places, and that scares the crap out of me.
Although, I don’t have to face them literally. And that’s what this post is about. I’m trying to figure out how to face them mentally and emotionally, not necessarily physically. So I’m going to try and make a list of ways I can slowly immerse myself, and then determine how I am going to do them.
- look at old year books
- drive past buildings- Elementary, Jr. High, High School
- drive through Butlerville
- park in the school parking lots and walk around
- play on Butlerville school playground
- go inside Butlerville and walk the halls
- go in the classrooms where I was bullied, where they turned on me, and where he molested me
I am happy with the order, but I think with each thing I’m going to have to to each step in phases. Maybe start each step by doing them with Robby, and then slowly be able to do them on my own. And with the year books I could start with better years and then work my way to the tougher years.
I think I have a plan. Now I just have to do it.